If they want to leave, let them. If they don’t support you, let them. If they don’t invite you, let them. If they walk a little too close behind you, let them; it’s a public sidewalk.
Stop wasting your energy and time trying to control people.
Let them if they want to choose something or someone over you. Let them watch you from the car across the street. Let them figure out which window you always forget to lock.
If your friends are not inviting you out to brunch this weekend, let them. If you see the same person who was walking behind you last week standing behind you in your mirror while you brush your teeth, and then you turn around and see no one there, just let them.
So much time and energy is wasted on forcing others to match our expectations.
Let them call from an unknown number. Let them say your full government name.
And the truth is, if somebody else is not showing up how you want them to show up, do not try to force them to change. Let them be themselves because they are revealing who they are to you. Just Let Them.
Let them ring your doorbell, even if you didn’t give them your address. Let them say they were “just in the neighborhood” and wanted to hang out.
Let them ask why you look scared. Let them inside when they ask; it’s rude not to. Let them walk down the hall and know exactly where the kitchen is, even though they have never been inside your house.
Let them get you tea. Drink it because you don’t want to be rude. Because you tell yourself: Let them.
The dizziness hits fast. Your vision starts to fade. All you can think is: “I shouldn’t have let them.”
But it’s okay! With Mel Robbins’ theory, you don’t have to think too much. Just Let Them!